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Are you an Overworked, Overstressed & Overwhelmed Mama?

Denise Chiriboga Health, New Mama, Postnatal Nutrition 0 Comments

“Everyone in this family will be much happier once the kids are in daycare full time”

That’s what I said a couple of months ago.

I was having a really tough week.

As much as I wanted to get some work done, a blog post, a social media post, read one article from the stack of magazines that had been piling up for months. There was just no time for myself.

With my daughter in daycare part-time 3 days a week, and taking care of my 9 month old every single waking hour of the day, I just had zero time to myself and it was seriously taking a toll on my mood, my productivity, my attitude towards my husband and kids.

The countdown to full time daycare was on!!

I was trying to do too much with too little time. Or perhaps live up to the expectation of being a Supermom. (or Robo-Mom as my hubby likes to use)

I just had zero time to myself and it was seriously taking a toll on my mood, my productivity, my attitude towards my husband and kids.

It’s not easy being an entrepreneur and launching a business while on maternity leave and taking care of two little kids who barely nap, while the youngest gets into anything and everything.

On the good days that I actually did get 1 hour to myself, (cue the hallelujah music) I was frantically trying to figure out the best way to use my time.

Was it writing a blog post that I knew I couldn’t finish in 1 hour?
Was it folding the 5 loads of laundry?
Was it reading a book?
Was it getting a quick workout in?
Was it organizing the office with all my article clippings I wanted to save and file?

arrhhhhhhhh

I was slowly losing it as a mom, and me as an individual.

Luckly my hubby is an amazing man, and arranged (weeks in advance of this ‘melt down’ of mine) to have his sister and his parents take the kids for a whole day.

It was awesome. We went shopping, checked out the new and improved mall, wandered around the bookstore sipping lattes (I can’t even remember the last time I didn’t have a little nagging child on my heels asking to go home, or play in the kids area) We spent some dolla’ dolla’ bills on some clothes. (for me of course!) Had lunch, ate out for dinner at our fav restaurant, and had an awesome day!

I was slowly losing it as a mom, and me as an individual.

I’ve learned to finally accept the fact that when I have the kids at home, it means I have to spend time with them and not on my business. And when I’m with the baby alone 3 days a week, it means those are the days I focus on him, and only him. Which means going out and taking him to activities like baby music class, swimming etc.

Hubby tells me I can’t do it all, although he and everyone else calls me Robo-mom or supermom sometimes I feel like I need to live up to that expectation.

I assure you mama, you’re doing a great job.
Take care of the important things in life which is your health (both mental and physical), your nutrition and your children, and everything will fall in place. Don’t place too much pressure on yourself to be everything to everyone.

Lastly, make time for yourself.
Scheduled time, that you will actually stick to.

Here are some ideas for making “me-time” even if it is just a few hours by yourself:
  • Take a bath, read, book time away BY YOURSELF.
  • Schedule it in your calendar and your partners calendar when you will be enjoying ‘me-time’ and stick to it.
  • Get away for a night with ur hubby, dinner, sit in a cafe and read books.
  • Learn how to say, and practice just saying NO. So many of us moms have trouble saying no when ppl ask of us. If you can’t squeeze time in to do something for someone, just don’t. It’s ok to say no.
  • Go out for dinner and vent with the girls
  • Sometimes shopping is the best therapy!!
  • Eat fresh nutritious foods that stimulate your brain and make you feel happy. My favourite is mint tea, citrus fruit, fresh pressed green juice and smoothies!
  • Take it to the beach! Vacation if you can get away, and enjoy every minute of it!

I’d love to know what you do when you feel like an overwhelmed mama. Hit Reply and let me know

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